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This has been mentioned before, but...

I'm going at it from a different angle, and hopefully it'll spark some discussion.

We've talked a little about what "compatible religious beliefs" are in a serious relationship.... I think I was more or less the only one that said they needed to be nearly identical for me to be comfortable.

Now, I pose the view... what about a casual relationship? Does it matter to you? Would you [should you?] feel the need to "straighten them out" or be an example in your chosen path if they don't already follow it?

This is something I've been struggling with lately, and I'd really like to hear some input.   

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mutiny_abounds
May. 31st, 2008 12:04 am (UTC)
I don't expect for there to be any compatibility in beliefs as long as they understand and try to follow the golden rule. And this is for both casual and serious relationships. It's very important to me that I don't interfere with the will of anyone or expect them to think a certain way. But then it's also important that there is basic respect and kindness there. And I understand how people can have diametrically opposed views but both be valid and both be on their respective paths to fulfillment. To each his own. If you need a partner who is that similar to you then I think it's fine.
xounlabeledxo
May. 31st, 2008 04:07 am (UTC)
well, what im struggling with is that i dont feel like i should try to change somebody - but at the same time, evangilizing/sharing the gospel is a core part of Christianity. Its a difficult line to walk, and lines get very, very blurry in romantic relationships.
mutiny_abounds
May. 31st, 2008 04:49 am (UTC)
That shouldn't be a problem. You can share the gospel without doing it in a pressuring, invasive way, and then let your partner do with that what they will. Sharing the gospel and actually converting someone to chrstianity are two very different things. If you don't want to be with a non-christian then don't date someone unless you know they're christian. Personally, I would never expect a partner to share my religious beliefs but that's really your choice.
xounlabeledxo
May. 31st, 2008 04:50 am (UTC)
yeah.

well its my own fault, i suppose. a;lkjsdflkad. :P
mutiny_abounds
May. 31st, 2008 07:07 am (UTC)
I don't see what the problem is if they're a good person and mean well but whatever floats your boat.
xounlabeledxo
May. 31st, 2008 07:17 am (UTC)
well, and that's what im starting to think.

but everything ive been taught points to the contrary, and ....

i just dont know. :|
timmakowski
May. 31st, 2008 08:03 am (UTC)
Just cause its what you've been taught doesn't mean you have to believe it yourself. You should make your own decision on if you believe its a problem or not.
xounlabeledxo
May. 31st, 2008 08:04 am (UTC)
i know. and that's where it gets sticky. :P
timmakowski
May. 31st, 2008 08:05 am (UTC)
Yeah figuring out what you believe to be right or wrong can be a real pain.
mutiny_abounds
May. 31st, 2008 08:47 am (UTC)
Hmm. There is a more liberal version of Christianity. Maybe you are starting to move in that direction. The bible can be interpreted in many ways but the most core message, I think, is one of forgiveness and redemption. I was always touched by Jesus's love for the prostitute who everyone else despised.
xounlabeledxo
May. 31st, 2008 08:49 am (UTC)
yes - and that love is a very important part of the whole thing. i dont judge or dislike or put someone in a box because they hold different beliefs than i do.. i can respect that, and show them love as well.

but when it comes to a relationship, its a whole different ball game to me, because an SO affects your life so very much.
airkitten
Jun. 3rd, 2008 04:55 am (UTC)
I agree with mutiny_abounds here. There is a huge difference in sharing the gospel and trying to convert someone. One of my friends is hardcore christian... and I'm not. She respects my beliefs, I respect hers. I'm more new age-y could be pagan but lapsed methodist. I just follow what ever I'm told spiritually whether it comes from Jesus or Buddha or the Dalai Lama :-)
xounlabeledxo
Jun. 3rd, 2008 04:56 am (UTC)
i guess i dont really have a reply, but i feel the need to acknowledge that i read this... hahaha.

so thanks. :)
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